Reflecting Behaviour in Conflict Situations
Goal
The aim is to understand and to reflect the way conflict parties have approached the issue –whether by reaching a constructive mutual agreement or by avoiding it.
Steps
1. Make the participants remember some personal conflict situations and how they usually behaved in these situations. Collect the results and become more concrete.
2. Fight: recollect with the participants examples of Fight behaviors, i. e
Examples for FIGHT |
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Question: What are the main messages of Fight behaviors?
Messages of FIGHT |
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FIGHT - I Win/ You Lose |
3. Flight: collect some examples of Flight behaviors, i. e.
Examples for FLIGHT |
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Question: What are the main messages of Flight behaviors?
Messages of Flight |
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FLIGHT - I lose/ You win |
3. Flow: Behavior between “Fight” and “Flight” with some examples
Examples for FLOW |
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Question: What do you think are the main messages of Flow behaviors?
Messages of FLOW |
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FLOW I win/ you win (assertive behaviors.) |
4. Systematization: Please fill in the table below by choosing three conflict situations and analyzing it. This can be done in individual work or small group work.
Specific examples of your behaviour | Strengths | Weaknesses | How it affects people involved | How it affects the problem |
FIGHT I win, you loose 1. 2. 3. |
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FLIGHT |
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FLOW |
Reflection
- If you have analyzed behavior in conflict, did it help you look at conflict resolution from another point of view?
- If during analyzing you have chosen an example that you solved in one way, can the solved conflict be settled by another behavior which could be more effective or be long term?
Reference
Conflict Resolution Network CRN: CR Trainers Manual - 12 Skills; 1. The Win/Win Approach; available on http://www.crnhq.org/